A big part of the book explains the 17 ways rich people think and act differently than poor and middle-class people. It’s wealth file #12 that got me thinking. The file states rich people think “both”. Poor people think “either/or”.
I realized that I’ve been in the “either/or” category for too long, and I need to change my mindset. Let me explain:
One thing that I’ve grappled with on my PF journey is the idea that I need to sacrifice a lot in my life right now to save for something I really, really want. So for instance I would watch every freakin’ penny and try and hold off on life’s little pleasures, like say for instance going out to movies or dinner with friends, making sure I’m only using a dime-sized amount of body wash or shampoo, not buying that new bedspread even though I’ve had mine for nearly six years and it has rips and tears, etc., JUST so I can take the trip to Croatia I’ve always wanted to take. Maybe I’m selfish but I really want a little of BOTH worlds!
Why have I been so small-minded? Why is it either/or?
Now I know CURRENTLY I do not have the budget necessarily to do both, nor do I think you should just go out and splurge on this, that, or the other thing just because. I still do believe in looking at purchases from a value standpoint. Does it somehow add value to your life? But having missed several birthdays, weekend trips, and other events has left me feeling a little depressed at times. I mean is a trip to Croatia THAT worth not doing much of anything for the rest of the year?
No, and it’s because I’ve created my own glass ceiling.
At the beginning of the year I had the mentality that I would no longer accept small, pissy jobs where I had to kill myself just to make a dime. I really worked on trying to hold myself at higher standards. I called it focusing on “big rocks.” This is NOT the same thing as doing what you have to do to put food on the table. I know sometimes people have no choice. But if you do at all, then you do yourself a disservice to just take any old job. And so having that mentality actually really did create opportunities where I was able to make a lot more this year, without having to work 24/7 and totally burn out.
But still I’ve been limiting myself. Just like I mentioned in my article yesterday over at It Started With Lip Gloss…part of me considers moving from LA JUST because of the high cost of living. So if that’s really the only major thing that is a concern, why don’t I friggen think bigger and make it work? Like, you know, make more money?! I’m a freelancer for goodness sake, so there is no limit on how much I can make if I put my mind to it!
So I have a lot of thinking and planning to do in the next couple of months. Time to break my own glass ceiling!
Are you a “both” or an “either/or?”
As a little bonus, here is an infographic that was posted on FB today that I thought I’d share about the current state of freelancing. Thought some of you might be interested in the info!
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