It’s the girl you know who always talks about how everyone has done her wrong, but doesn’t realize that the common denominator in the situation is her. Or the guy who goes on and on about how everyone he knows is wrong about everything and he is right. There is a certain feeling you get around them: you may start to feel uncomfortable, or your sunny disposition starts to turn sour. You might want to run away…as fast as you can.
I’ve gotten better over the years of dropping energy vampires from my life as quickly as possible. I think you begin to realize that life is too short to surround yourself with negativity. You may feel guilty about doing this, but you have to realize that you can’t help them. They have to help themselves first, and most energy vampires don’t even realize they have a problem.
But what about when it comes to your finances? Are you hanging around people who are constantly complaining about their money “situation,” or are you surrounding yourself with successful friends? And by success, I don’t necessarily mean mega-millioniares, but those with a financially positive mindset.
In this article about surrounding yourself with the right people from Askmen.com, they say, “the bottom line is that to achieve great heights, you must fly with the best. And others will judge you based on those that surround you. So choose your lieutenants carefully.”
I’ve been fortunate that almost all of my friends are not only positive, ambitious people, but also financially successful. It’s ME who was the friend who probably fell at one point into the financially negative mindset. I look back at all the times I said, “I can’t go out to eat, I’m broke.”
Now I’m not saying that you go out to eat and ignore your finances, but that sentence could be spun 100 different ways to be more financially positive: “I’m going to say no because it’s not in my spending plan,” or “I’m saving up for a big vacation so I’m trying to be really frugal right now,” or “I’ll pass on dinner, but how about we have a potluck at my house next Sunday?” Or even simply say, “thank you for the invitation, but I’m going to pass.”
So whether you’re currently the the financial energy vampire (FEV-you know I love my acronyms), or you’re surrounding yourself with FEV’s, maybe it’s time to take a look and see what you can change. These subtle positive shifts can do wonders!
Are you a FEV or FEV friend?