Parades, Trips, & Link Love

tonyacupHappy Friday everyone! I can’t believe the longest day of the year is almost here…and then it’s all downhill from there. lol! I’m just kidding…but seriously, savor all of the sunlight you can!

This week was pretty mellow. I had work, but nothing was too overwhelming, and I’m trying to exercise everything I’ve learned reading the book on stress, to deflect any annoyances that may have occurred. By the way, I noticed another one of my stress triggers is when people constantly interrupt me. I think that annoys everyone though, right? Note to self: be someone who does not interrupt.

katnissWednesday was a super fun day. First of all, I channeled my inner Katniss Everdeen, and shot some arrows in my producer’s backyard. I hadn’t done that since high school. I did pretty well for being a re-newbie.

Later in the afternoon I took the “day off” and went to an LA Kings Parade in the South Bay party. As I mentioned in a previous post, all but one or two of the Kings players live in the Beach Cities (Manhattan Beach, Hermosa Beach, Redondo Beach), so they had a special parade just for us. How cool is that!? My friend rented a beach cottage and had people over to celebrate, while the players paraded down The Strand right in front of the house. After, we played some beach volleyball.

In the meantime, I was getting emails left and right screaming “URGENT” on them and that I needed to make changes to videos IMMEDIATELY!! My clients were aware of my time off and that I wouldn’t be available, so I stood my ground. I let the panic go right over my head and enjoyed the day immensely. I even road my bike to the beach.

LA Kings South Bay Parade

Totally worth seeing!

As a freelancer, you can feel the pressure to always be “on” and available, but there are times where you can’t be everywhere at once. Having that type of event (the parade) so close to where I live happens once in a blue moon. If I had not gone, or cut my time short, I would have regretted it and been bitter and resentful. Instead I got up at 6am the next day and hit the ground running making changes to videos.

So I’m planning two unexpected trips in addition to Fincon 14 in New Orleans in September this year.

The first should be very relaxing and frugal. My friend Karen moved from this area to Bass Lake (near Yosemite) to take over the house her parents used to live in. She has been wanting people to come visit for awhile, but why I hadn’t really thought of it I have no idea. Well, that’s not entirely true. You see I used to spend A LOT of time there. My ex-boyfriend is from there and his parents still live there, so we went up a lot. It’s a tiny town, and I was not comfortable with the idea of ever running into them. But it’s been a long time now, and that idea is just ridiculous. Who cares!

Bass Lake

Bass Lake

So I plan on going up in July sometime to just swim, chill, read, eat, drink wine, and go out on the pontoon boat for a long weekend.

The second trip is to Detroit in October. I wanted to fly my Mom out here so she could spend a week with me and a week with her sister in Orange County. But…and it’s way too long of a story, she isn’t going to come. Personally, I do not want to live with any regrets in not spending time with my parents. I see on FB all the time friends losing parents. My mom may be a bit a lot loony, but she is still my Mom.

She did perk up and get really excited when I told her I was coming home. For one, I planned it around a University of Michigan football game (she has season tickets), and two, because I’ll be there for my birthday. The good news is it only cost me 15k Southwest points, and I still have another 40k points left.

This weekend I’m going to a friend’s birthday party at a state park in Santa Monica to watch Polo, and of course playing beach volleyball. What are you up to?

But before you go, make sure you stop by this post where I’m giving away a pair of ASICS running shoes!

Link Love

John from Frugal RulesTaking the Plunge: 2 Years Since I Quit!

Travis from Enemy of DebtNo Effort, No Results

Michelle from Fit is the New PoorWhat If I Fail?: How to Beat the Fear of Failure

E.M. from Journey to SavingGiven the Chance, What’s One Thing You Would Buy?

Jessica from Mo’ Money Mo’ HousesSpend Money Where It Counts…On Yourself

Jefferson from See Debt RunHabit Creep

Laurie from The Frugal FarmerPersonal Finance Tips – You’re Not Done Learning Yet

Shannon from The Heavy PurseThe Legacy You Leave Behind


Tonya is a video editor/producer and writer living in Los Angeles who enjoys beach volleyball, playing ukulele, and running. To get the latest updates, be sure to subscribe. To support her fundraising efforts to produce more video for this site, please visit her crowdfunding page!

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  • DC @ Young Adult Money

    Good for you for holding your ground with the “urgent” changes that were needed. It definitely seems like people think that freelancers are available 24/7 and can respond in unreasonable amounts of time.

    I’m glad you got to go to the parade and I’m also glad you are planning some trips! Hope you have a great weekend!

    • Tonya

      I am glad I did too. Some moments just can’t be recreated like the parade. As a big hockey fan, those are special moments. It’s not like I just went to a movie.

  • John S @ Frugal Rules

    That’s awesome you held your ground Tonya! We have that happen too and it drives me nuts because it’s as if they expect we don’t have a life and where was this work a week ago when we told them we were taking the day off? End rant. :)
    Glad you’re able to take a few trips this summer/fall – especially by using some points. :) We’re doing a bit of that ourselves this fall after we get back from FinCon. Thanks for the mention and have a great weekend!

    • Tonya

      Exactly John. You can’t make everyone else’s emergency your own. You’d go crazy!

  • AvgJoeMoney

    Your parents are UofM fans? …and I thought you were so, so cool…..

    • Tonya

      ha and neither one went there. Actually it’s mostly my mom who is an obsessed fan. I must admit that after moving away from Detroit, I really don’t care about football at all.

  • Shannon

    The beach parade sounds awesome Tonya! And I am glad that you stood your ground and enjoyed it. When we lived in Tampa, the Lightning won the Stanley Cup and I didn’t get to the parade, but my hubby got a picture with the cup because the team doctor had a child in the school where hubby taught so they brought the cup to the school for a few hours. We are headed to a Yankees game tonight (great Groupon deal) and watching my son play soccer this weekend. The weather is supposed to be beautiful and I am excited about celebrating the longest day of the year tomorrow.

    • Tonya

      Awe man I’m so jealous! So many of my friends in the south bay got pic with the cup. Oh well, I guess I got the second best thing. :). Have fun this weekend!

  • Kassandra

    That’s great that you stood your ground and respected your time off! You were right to take in the parade! It’s happened to me also and I always say that I am not an on-call surgeon so let’s put things in perspective. That’s nice that you’ll be able to see your mom :) I just bought a ticket for my mom to visit me for three weeks in August. Enjoy your upcoming adventures!

    • Tonya

      Thanks Kassandra. I’m glad I did too. Glad you will see your mom for that amount of time!

  • Shannon Ryan

    The parade was great. How fun that your friend rented a cottage so you had a great view. It’s actually fun when you run into a player at a restaurant or store, especially now! Good for you for standing your ground. We cannot be on 24/7 and need and deserve a break. Love that you’re going to visit your Mom. Both Chris and I have lost our fathers, so we definitely value the time we have with our mothers. Have a great weekend!

    • Tonya

      Did you go watch? I have to admit that I probably wouldn’t recognize half of them out of context and their beards shaved…and teeth back in. :)

  • Travis Pizel

    I’m impressed to see that you were able to ignore the “URGENT” notes….I don’t think I could have done it. I’m even more impressed to see you shooting arrows with a bow….rock star! Thanks for the shout out – hey, are you still running??

    • Tonya

      It was very hard and it made me very uncomfortable, but I know I’d be kicking myself more if I didn’t stand my ground and enjoy myself. I should have just ignored the phone entirely. I’m running, but just on the beach.

  • E.M.

    That’s awesome that you stood your ground and did the work the following day. Way to go! I also love archery. I used to practice with my dad in our backyard when I was younger, and it was always a lot of fun. I’m glad to hear you’re able to visit your parents, and that trip to Bass Lake sounds lovely. Thanks for mentioning my post, and I hope you have a great weekend!

    • Tonya

      I’m glad I did too. Archery is pretty fun, but my fingers were killing me! I need to work on it more.

  • Megan Michael

    I would love to go to Yosemite! It sounds like it is going to be a nice, relaxing (and frugal!) time for you. :)

    • Tonya

      Yosemite is beautiful. Yes, I’m glad I have this opportunity!

  • Lisa vs. the Loans

    Being interrupted is probably my number 1 on my list of most annoying things ever!

    • Tonya

      Especially when it’s a stressful conversation. I keep avoiding phone calls from this person in hopes they just email me instead.

  • Cashville Skyline

    Kudos for standing up for yourself and protecting your free time! If the Nashville Predators won a stanley cup, I would never miss a parade! Southwest Rapid Rewards is pretty spectacular, huh? I’ll probably travel home four times for free this year because of it.

    • Tonya

      Thanks! I’m glad I did too! Southwest is the only way I’ve done domestic trips in the last couple of years. It’s been great!

  • Kim

    I’m so glad you went to the parade. I think when you drop everything on a dime, it makes people think you’ll always do that. We are having a great weekend with hiking up to Hanging Lake in Glenwood Canyon today and the Maroon Bells near Aspen tomorrow. I think you should totally take and enjoy all the trips you can!

  • the expat investor

    Hey Tonya,

    Glad to hear you had a good time at the parade, some time
    you got to cut loose and have a fun day. Hope I can do that someday but for now
    its work for me every weekend.

  • Stu @ Poor Student

    Seems like you’ve been having fun! I also don’t like being interrupted, because it distracts me from what I’ve been doing and it’s usually hard to come back to it later! I’d also love to visit Yosemite sometime :)

  • Kemkem

    That Bass Lake looks awesome! Looks like the parade was great too. Nothing like a parade in L.A. Never been to a hockey one, Lakerss! Have a great weekend. We be!

  • Stefanie @ brokeandbeau

    Good for you for staying true to your time off designation. I’m terrible about stepping away from work.

  • DEBt DEBs

    I’m glad you approached the work “crises” the way you did! Seems like the perfect solution to me! Also, I’m so glad you are going to be seeing your crazy Mom! ;-)

  • Arman @ thebigmansworld

    I’m so glad to read you stood your ground and embraced your day off- that’s what early mornings are for! I’m laughing at the reasoning behind you contemplating the trip to your friends place- I would totally do the same had I been in such a position!

  • Done by Forty

    I think the Cup takes precedence over most work “emergencies”. Good for you for proper prioritization!