Ever since I was a little girl, I have been a HUGE fan of movies. My dad used to take me and my brother pretty much every single weekend until we were teenagers, where I then chose to go with my friends instead, because being seen with my dad was, “OMG SOOOOOO embarrassing.”
To this day I still love movies, although with my tight budget, a good majority are viewed from “Redbox Theater” (aka my living room). Best deal in town!
Because of my love of films, I love reading interviews with actors about their various roles, and how they decided to choose that role, or how they manipulated their characters. One sentiment I hear quite often is, “I made a bold choice…”
To me when someone says that, that means that whatever choice they made was probably way out of their comfort zone, but they did it to stretch themselves as performers. Maybe an actress who is perceived as sweet played a drug-addicted prostitute, or an actor in a scene decided to go off script and improvise something they felt instead of what was on paper. Whatever it may be, making bold choices can be a terrifying, yet exhilarating experience.
I realized that lately I’ve gotten away from making bold choices. Back in the beginning of 2013, I made a conscious decision to stop saying yes to every single opportunity that came my way. You may be scratching your head and thinking, “well isn’t that a good thing?” Not necessarily. I wanted to focus on doing more meaningful work that paid more, instead of taking a billion small jobs that paid a little, and ate up much of my time.
For instance, I was given the opportunity to edit a creative type of video in exchange for a new bike (the client was a bike company). Something about it felt off, and I felt uneasy, but the voices outside my head were loud, screaming, “take it!!! It will look good on your reel. Screw the fact that you really don’t even need another bike.”
I took the job and it went south very quickly, and could see that things were not going to end well, so I made the choice to bow out midway through, which I’m sort of ashamed of, but know it was the best decision for me at the time.
The bolder choice in that scenario would have been listening to my gut before I started, and realized things felt off for a reason. I mean for the love of guacamole it was only a bike! Although I thought I had learned my lesson from that experience, I realize it’s easy to slip back into old habits.
Sometimes the choice isn’t always as easy as it seems. Something like turning down a job that is actually paying you seems insane when you are looking for spare change under your couch cushion to pay your rent. Hey, I get it…
I’ve been there I’m there at the moment.
But what also starts happening is the slow, soul-sucking process of undervaluing yourself. I’m sure those of you who attended Fincon probably received the message of valuing yourself in one form or another in one of the sessions. There is a lot to be said for that.
This is not a post for the unemployed/underemployed family man who has five mouths to feed, who because of what I said is like, “well Tonya said to tell McDonalds to go to hell when they offered me a minimum wage job.” Hey, sometimes you gotta do what it takes.
All I’m saying/asking is that you remember who you are, what skills you have, and what you can offer to the world. Remember what got you excited when you were a little kid, dreaming of your big, grown up job. So, even if you have to work at McDonald’s, find that spare time to make bold choices outside of your fast food job. Dig deep if you have to. Somewhere in there, you have a lot to offer the world.
I know I do too. I’m working on it.
When was the last time you made a bold choice?
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