*I’m still out of it, so if you see a typo please let me know! 🙂
It’s the day after a long weekend at Fincon15 (Financial Bloggers Conference), and my mind has been racing about what to call my first post, post event. It doesn’t help that I still haven’t quite recovered from not enough sleep. But let me take a step back in time for a moment…
…My first job after college was with Ford Motor Company. I worked as a video editor for Ford Communications Network. I think my starting wage was $9/hour, and I was only a perma-lancer, which meant not only low pay, but no benefits.
Every year Ford would shut down plants to re-tool. Because they did, I was essentially out of work for two weeks, so I had to scramble to find side hustles during that time. I kind of resented Ford at that time for doing that, but as I’m now older and so much wiser (:)), I realize that shutting down to re-tool was an essential part of their business…actually, it’s an essential part of every business, including mine.
Back to present day. I was feeling this incredible “twitch” all weekend to have a post first thing Monday morning, as well as a plethora of ideas for the rest of the month and beyond, but my mind was…blank! How could this be?!?! I’m here at this incredible conference where people are doing amazing things with work and their lives, and I’ve got nothing?!? To top it off, I made some great connections this weekend, and if they went to my site and saw that my last post was a week ago, would I become irrelevant?
Then I watched the very last keynote of the weekend with Grant Baldwin, who had my favorite speech of the conference, because it spoke to me so much. One of the key points in his speech was, “who you are is way more important than what you do.” A-freaking-men! He also touched on something that I was experiencing at that very moment, which was this feeling that I’m not quite doing “enough” in my professional life. Hell, even in my personal finance life if you want to talk about *cough cough* dating. He said, “there will always be this feeling that you have more you could be doing.” Essentially you will never feel “done,” so make sure you are taking care of yourself (and taking time off) and the things that are related to that (health, family, leisure time) first and foremost.
So why does this post have empowered in the title then? I have a feeling when people read it they thought of it in the professional sense, and that’s not entirely not true, but what it really means to me is always, always, always, be empowered to be myself! And keep doing what is most important to me, regardless if it’s not the thing that I should be doing.
That speech, along with some great breakout sessions I attended, and Carl Richards’s speech where he said, “find that “thing” in your life and put it out into the world,” have empowered me to be 100% uniquely myself. Grant’s speech reminded me to focus on what is most important to me, and say “no” to things that I don’t want in my life, or when “my cup” is filled to capacity.
I laughed to myself because that really took the pressure off. I mean Lordy the world would not fall apart if I did not have a post today. But ironically, as soon as I took that pressure, off, I got some great, fresh ideas.
Do you ever feel pressure to use the tools other people are using in life to be successful? Do you have a hard time saying “no” to new things, even if you don’t have time or want to do it? Do you have a hard time taking time off?
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