She also had a lot of negative energy, so I wondered if she had the negative energy because bad things always seemed to happen to her, or did her bad energy attract those things to her? I think it was the latter, but it’s not what you think….
This is not a post to get all The Secret on you. What I really think happened, is that she did not stack the decks in her favor.
For instance, one night she was robbed at knife-point in a parking lot. While no one ever deserves such a scary event to happen to them, she was also walking alone, in a sketchy area, very late at night, and was really drunk.
Now, have we all made less-than-stellar decisions in the past similar to this one? Perhaps. And you may or may not have had an adverse event happen as a result. Hey, we all make mistakes.
I remember when I first traveled to Europe alone and my dad was pretty freaked out about it. He warned me about all these bad things that could happen to me. I personally don’t believe in letting fear rule your life, and therefore be afraid with taking some risks and chances, but, I also was incredibly cautious to ensure the best possible outcome. I wore a money belt, made copies of traveler’s checks (I’m dating myself), let my credit card companies know I was going to Europe, gave trusted individuals the names and numbers of every place I was staying (and an approximate itinerary), made copies of my passport, etc. OK maybe it was a bit overkill.
If something would have happened and I was robbed by “the gypsies” everyone warned me about, it would have been no big deal to regroup and keep on with my travels.
But, how many times have you found that you have not stacked the decks in your favor, and have declared yourself as someone who has “bad luck?”
My guess is you are neither unlucky or lucky, as no one really is. “Lucky” people just tend to talk about and focus on the good things that happen to them, because they have prepared themselves enough where negative events don’t phase them that much, where as “unlucky” people seem to aways talk about the shit that has “happened to them.”
As a personal finance blogger you can probably see where I’m going with this.
While I had stacked many decks in my favor in life, when I was a struggling freelancer, every financial mishap felt pretty devastating. Why did I have to get a root canal as soon as I didn’t have dental insurance? Why did my car have to break down in the middle of the 405 freeway? Why is so-and-so ALWAYS late with paying me?
It’s not that these things do not happen to other people, it’s just when it happened to me at that time in my life, it certainly felt as if I could have had “bad luck.”
No one is immune to bad stuff happening to them. You can eat super healthy and exercise and you still might get sick. You can meet Prince Charming who turns out to be the devil in disguise after you get married. And you can live in a good neighborhood and someone may rob your house.
But, if you eat right and exercise, you might be able to bounce back quicker from an illness. You might have to divorce Prince Charming, but you have a network of good friends and family to help you through a difficult time, because you took the time to nurture relationships while you were still married. And while getting robbed might feel like a horrible violation, you had the right amount of insurance for your place and/or ample savings to get you through rebuilding that part of your life.
So, are you stacking the decks in your favor?