It’s a rainy Sunday afternoon in LA and I’m fixin’ to light some candles, take an epsom salt bubble bath, and later make some homemade chicken noodle soup and see what’s on Amazon Prime (I bought it the other day when they had their $79 sale).
Sounds cozy, huh? Well it does to me and that’s what is most important. We don’t often get rain in LA so it’s a pretty special event (if you don’t have to drive anywhere).
The past couple weeks have been noisy, mostly in part to the election and the results, but I’m not digging into that today, as I’m sure you’ve had your fill of it on TV, the interwebz and social media.
I’m not going to tell you to either be afraid or not afraid, to fight or not to fight, but instead tell you what I’m going to do: Be OK.
I’m making a conscious choice to accept what is at the moment, but to move forward picking my battles wisely. Because picking too many battles (and there is no shortage), is exhausting, and will only cause me to lose in the end. And what good is that if I don’t have the energy to go on?
I’m also making a conscious choice to start with self. I see it as the pebble you throw in the pond. Start with self (the pebble contacting the water) and create the ripple effect from there. It doesn’t work any other way.
But to create a positive effect in the world you need to get right yourself, otherwise you just send ripples of fear, hatred, or negativity (I think we have enough of that going on-I don’t need to add to it) into the world.
Nothing is worse than feeling like so many outside forces are controlling your life. To be OK I personally believe that you can’t rely on anything outside of yourself. There are way too many things beyond your control.
I can’t control how people think, react (or don’t), what they write, say, or how they behave.
But I can control how I think, react (or don’t), what I write, say, and how I behave.
Saving more money is one way that I’ve taken back control. I do it despite the fact that it isn’t sexy, or Instagram-able, wearable or drivable, but because it gives me so many more options…it gives me more freedom. It’s what I can do. It’s within my control.
I see many people who are fearing a lot right now. Not that it’s not justified, or that I’ve lived through the same hardships that would make one afraid. But I can’t even control that. It’s just what was and what is.
But I can choose not to be afraid. To quietly build enough safeguards that I can protect myself as best as I can, then deal with whatever else happens as needed. And have enough energy left over to be helpful to other people.
I can’t speak for everyone else. I can only speak for myself. And I choose to be OK.
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