The other day I was listening to a podcast over at The School of Greatness called, Transform Resistance Into Freedom & Success, featuring life coach Chris Lee.
I think we get messages from random places, just when we need it the most.
As I described in my last post, I used to be someone who would spend mindlessly. If I wanted something, I didn’t give too much thought into purchasing it, even if that meant putting something on my credit card, despite not having the cash to pay off the balance at the end of the month.
After eight years of struggling financially, I thought I had learned my lesson. And I did. I’m much more mindful of how I spend my money…but I feel as if I’ve swung too far in the other direction, where I have become fearful of spending money on wants, like travel.
For the longest time I have been wanting to travel to Croatia. The woman who cuts my hair has family there, and over the years she has shown me pictures of her travels, and I would drool over the beautiful scenery.
I know a lot of people, who when they secure a full time job (or a different job), will take that two-ish weeks to go on a vacation before they start. Not me. Last year when I got my current job, I vowed that 2016 would be a rebuilding year, where I only took a few, very inexpensive domestic trips, to try and save a lot of money. And I did! whoo-hoo!
I thought at the time 2017 would be the year to make that trip to Croatia (and I added Slovenia to the bucket list after watching a House Hunters International episode). I mean c’mon, is this not beautiful or what?
But as 2017 approached, I started getting cold feet.
“Maybe I should wait one more year to sock away even more money,” I thought. “Croatia isn’t going anywhere.”
Part of me felt sad, but part of me felt relieved. Why?
Because I knew not going would keep me in my soft, cozy little comfort zone. I wouldn’t have to stretch myself. I wouldn’t have to worry about, “but what if _____ (insert: I lose my job, I need a root canal, it rains every day I’m there, I lose my passport, the roommate the tour sticks me with snores, I made a mistake and should have gone to Africa/Las Vegas/Italy)?”
You get the picture!
Sure I’d have 2k-ish to keep in the bank and my soft, comfy bed to sleep in, but where are the memories? Where is the exploring? Where is enjoying life and expanding my horizons?
Do I advocate that anyone should travel based on wanting to experience other cultures and expanding horizons, but doing so would put one in debt, or living paycheck to paycheck? Hell no!
And it’s not about travel per say, it’s about challenging oneself in whatever venture someone is uncomfortable with, but will help them grow as a person.
To me for instance, running a 5k is fun, but not really a challenge. To someone else? It may be the biggest physical accomplishment of their year! Or their life.
It took that podcast, along with a long conversation with Mr. Wow at Waffles on Wednesday, and other signs from the Universe, that I needed to push myself out of that worry zone. As there is AlWAYS something to worry about, or something that could go wrong.
So I bought an 8-day tour to Croatia and Slovenia, although I plan on book-ending my trip with a few more days in Europe…perhaps Austria.
Sometimes, you just gotta do it…whatever “it” may be.
Have you ever let, “but what if…?” hold you back?
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